According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, one in four women in the U.S. have been the victim of severe physical violence by a partner. But it’s not only up to victims to speak up about a dangerous relationship.
“It’s been a shocker. None of us expected this to happen. Especially to her,” said Oscar Sandoval, Norma Salina’s friend.
Oscar Sandoval remembers his friend, Norma Salinas, as a young woman with a good heart.
“She helped everyone. She was the friendly person that you could go to and talk to,” Sandoval said.
As for the man she was dating, accused killer, Jose Torres, Sandoval says he never had a good feeling about him.
“It was like a cold vibe when I met him. I got a strange vibe from him,” Sandoval said.
Sandoval says though the relationship might have been strained, Salinas kept her problems private.
“We’re not talking about someone who punched someone on the first date. This is slowly built over time to where, by the time physical violence comes into play, people feel trapped and don’t know how to get out,” said Eva Terry, the development director for Peace at Home Family Shelter.
Terry says talking through problems can save a life. But don’t expect the victims to speak up. If you think something is wrong, say so.
“A lot of times, people have known that something is wrong, but they are too afraid to say something because they fear an awkward conversation,” Terry said. “If you see red flags, take the time to talk to them privately.”
Terry says if you do that, you could prevent a tragedy before it’s too late.
“God knows why she took her. Yeah, she is missed by so many right now,” Sandoval said.
Terry says it’s important to notice the signs of domestic violence like jealousy and possessiveness. You may see your loved one withdraw or change their personality. If so, Terry recommends you talk to them and face the situation head on.